My Fertility Journey: Part I

 

My Fertility Journey: Part I

 

TW: Pregnancy, PCOS, Infertility

 From the time I was a little girl, we’re talking 2 or 3 years old, I knew I wanted to be a mom. My own mom was a pediatrician, so between everyone handing her a baby to being the oldest grandchild on my mom’s side, babies were everywhere. I learned to support a baby’s head by the time I was 4, and had the soothing baby bounce down by 8. Fast forward a few years, and at 18, I was ready to move to the burbs and have a family. Thankfully, I was able to be patient and wait until I was more settled in my life for me to act on that urge! Hah! When some of my older friends started having babies, I would always opt for a day in the burbs with them to get my baby fix over a boozy brunch or a night out. I guess I’ve always been an old soul!

 

When I was 25, I started noticing that my periods were super irregular and sometimes didn’t come for months at a time. Having been on...

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ACES™

Uncategorized Jun 15, 2021

In poker, Aces rank higher than Kings. In tarot, pulling Aces means one will do very, very well financially. All in all, Aces have some good vibes behind them! At The Joywell, ACES™ is how we approach everything. ACES™ is the coaching methodology I’ve developed after years of training and client experience. I’m so excited to bring this method to The Joywell members and for you all to benefit from it the way so many of my clients already have!

 

So, what is this ACES™ stuff? It stands for Accountability, Connection, Engagement and Support. Keep reading for a more in-depth explanation!

 

Accountability: They say a goal without a plan is a dream. Dreams are great! I love a good dream. But if you want to make changes that will improve your wellbeing and quality of life, having accountability both to yourself and from others is going to be key. At The Joywell, we will always be your accountability partners with the goal of optimizing your mental...

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Mother's Day After Loss

Mamas of all kinds deserve a day to be recognized and (hopefully!) pampered. But what if all you feel like doing on Mother’s Day is crawling into a hole and ignoring the outside world because you’ve lost someone? Maybe you’ve experienced the loss of your mother or mother figure, maybe you’ve suffered pregnancy, infant, or neonatal loss. Perhaps you’ve lost a child, young or adult. Maybe you haven’t yet conceived and are struggling to become a mother. If you can relate to any or all of these, I hear you. I am here for you. I am holding space for you. I too grieve on Mother’s Day.

 

At 26, I lost my mom to stage IV colon cancer. She was only 47. (I wrote an essay for Mrs. Nipple on that here). The idea of my first Mother’s Day without her made me want to crawl into my room and not come out until Monday. While that would have been a-okay, a friend of mine who had lost her dad knew what to do for me. She made a plan with me and kept...

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Overstimulated and Under-connected

One of the core attributes of my methods here at The Joywell is connection. It’s the “C” in ACES! Putting together the framework for The Joywell method, ACES ,was inspired by my own experiences as well as those of my clients over the years. For example, my client, Katie (named changed for anonymity) came to me for help with anxiety. After a few sessions, we noted which situations were her biggest triggers. I think if we’re all honest with ourselves, the situations that made Katie anxious would trigger us all, especially in the times of COVID and isolation.

 Overstimulated: Katie is on a group text message chain that includes eleven women. ELEVEN. Not being able to keep up with and feel like she was contributing to this conversation in a meaningful way was not only causing Katie anxiety, but it was also causing her to avoid engaging with any of the women on the text, even when she did feel she had something to contribute.  Now, according to...

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What is The Joywell?

My dream for The Joywell has always been to create a place where women in the family building years gather, share, and grow together, with the help of a trained mental health professional and coach. Creating and raising a family was never meant to be experienced or learned alone.

Having the support of other women in the same stage as you, as well as scientifically proven techniques to overcome challenges, can help improve your well-being by reducing feelings of overwhelm and anxiety, increasing connection and self-efficacy, and providing support and accountability for you to create the life you want and increase your well-being. 

What we aim to do at The Joywell is to increase and expand upon your well-being. But what exactly is well-being? Some think of it as health. Others think about it as being happy. Officially, well-being is defined by Dr. Martin Seligman, the founder of Positive Psychology, as being built of five pillars (PERMA): 

  1. Positive Emotion
  2. Engagement
  3. ...
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Boundaries and Friendship

boundaries friendship Mar 17, 2021

Growing up, I was often the odd girl out. You see, not only was I the biggest (both height and weight) of my friends, but overall, my family was so different from theirs. My mom was strict when it came to what I did with my spare time. She hated the idea of going to the mall or hanging out at a friend’s house. When friends came over to my house, my mom would take us to museums or to do some educational activity. You can imagine how popular my house was for hanging out purposes in middle school – though I do appreciate the cultural and scientific education nowadays – hah!

Being so different from my friends, both in personality and upbringing, often led to my being left out, and to some degree, missing out on the subtle rules of engagement imbued in middle school girls. For instance, I was (and still am) a total nerd. I love facts and science and am constantly learning how to apply everything I learn. In middle school, this meant that conversations about clothes and...

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